My friends are out there though, trying things on for size and I give mad props to them for that. SW had told me about this flight attendant guy she went out with like once, and she did actually think he might be gay because, well, it wasn't in his kiss. However, they had a bit of a session on the second date and this is what she got in her inbox a few days later:
[for the record SW is not at all hurt or disappointed by this little missive, but shocked at the flippant tone of it - imagine if she did like him how hurt one could be by such a strangely graphic and dorky email!]
SW, I have really been enjoying getting to know you, but (uh oh, there's the "but"), I have to be honest with you about what happened, or more specifically what didn't happen, the other night. When we were twisting tongues and swappin' spit, [ed note: wha?] I was definitely turned on (that was pretty obvious) but I wasn't feeling the sparks I'm looking for. Maybe I'm being naïve or just plain stupid, which I am both on many occasions, but I was hoping for more electricity. Even when we're just hanging out, I'm there and engaged in the moment, but am not super-charged or rushing with any special feelings.
So, despite how much of an ass I am to say this, I don't think it's a good idea to continue dating. I really wish I got to know you just as a friend through some other way first because you're a very cool person with amazing qualities, which is what drew me to you in the first place. To transition to friends after a romantic start is seldom achieved. I wish that wasn't true. Damn, I never did get to witness your R2D2 impression.
I'm sorry SW.
Its a strange strange world out there.
Hence, A & I are off to romantic holiday in P.R. Saturday so this is a bon voyage to you! If we find an internet cafe we will share any adventures, but if we do not, that is Ok with me too. Wish me luck in the carribean sun! Am bringing sunblock and hats. Will be the whitest person on the island that is guaranteed.